Is your marriage like a ship in rough seas ready to sink? If you are asking "what can I do to save my marriage" then maybe there is an iceberg ahead.

So what happened? Have you thought about what brought you to this question? You need to map out a plan before you move forward or you might find yourself looking at that same iceburg again and jumping ship.

Sit down and talk with your spouse. Get their opinion. Find out what they think about the marriage. Do they think the marriage is worth saving? By sitting down and talking you might find that both of you are wanting to save the marriage.

Now you need to decide which way you want to go to "save my marriage". Do you go to counseling or try to fix it on your own. If you try to fix it on your own, then you may look online. You can find many sites and ebooks that can give you the help you need.

Take into consideration that if you do try to fix it on your own, that you both will be looking at it from different angles. You need to make sure that both of you follow the same path and don't sway from course. That way you can both come to the same answer to "save my marriage".

If you decide to go to a marriage counselor, don't go for the first one listed. You need to look for the one that you are willing to open up to. One that both of you feel comfortable with, so that you can lay it all out on the table. You may find that 'letting it all out' with a marriage counselor is what you both needed.

Some think that a marriage counselor is the last step that they can take to save a marriage. That's not true, it can also be the first step. Or you can try both at the same time. Your marriage counselor may give you refrences to online sites and ebooks to look over. The marriage counselor may have you look online for homework purposes. Something that both of you can do together.

Which ever way you decide, make sure that both of you are willing to go that route. Decide together and then follow through, or you may find yourself asking the same question "Save My Marriage, What Can I Do?"

Save a marriage, try these 4 tips. They are all common sense , they are not difficult to do, yet many people won’t try them, not even to save a marriage.

Tip 1) Stop arguing. If you and your partner seem to argue over little things, then maybe you should learn to let it go. Don't try to start an argument every time you talk to each other. Leave it be. When you stop trying to argue with your partner, you may notice that your partner wont be arguing as much with you.

If you are trying to save a marriage, then you will have to be the one to start the process of not arguing as much. When both of you stop arguing as much, you may find that both of you want to save a marriage. So be the first to keep the peace.

Basically, If your partner thinks that the glass is half full, then don't think the glass is half empty. No need to start an argument over something little that can be blown big. Just think what's more important, saving a marriage or trying to prove a point. Let it go!

Tip 2) Try dating again. Think about how you met, where you went for your first date or maybe your partner has talked about going somewhere different. Make it a date. Try to keep things new in the marriage. Not only new things but try to keep yourself new as well. What did your partner like about you when you were dating? What do they like about you now? What was it that got the two of you together?

Remember how exciting and new everything was when you first got together. What was it that made it that way? Try to create it again, or something new that your partner is looking for. Don't fall into that proverbial rut where your partner thinks of you as boring.

Have a date night. Try to make it exciting and new just like when you first started dating. Just stay out of that rut and don't let it get boring.

Tip 3) Love your partner. Show them love the way they want to be loved. Some like to be touched a certain way, some just like to hear "I love you' more, while some just like the little things that are done for them.

No matter how you have to do it, just do it. Whether you have to stop everything your doing, grab your partner in your arms, look them in the eyes and say "I love you" or something as simple as opening the car door for them, you want to make them happy by showing them you love them.

Tip 4) If you want to help save a marriage, be physically affectionate. Hug, kiss and touch your partner as much as you can throughout the day. Could be just a brush of your hand as you walk by or sitting next to them on the couch as you watch a movie. Show them that you love being close to them by being physically affectionate.

Here is a youtube video on a relaxing mind technique from TW Jackson.
He helps get your mind in a relaxed, calm state to help you think straight.
Watch the video and tell me what you think.




If you would like his fast forwarding technique, or if you are looking to get back with your ex check out the Magic Of Making Up System

Hi,

Are there 'magic' words you can use to get your ex to return your phone calls?

Sounds hard to believe but there ARE words that will nearly cast a spell and make your ex feel almost compelled to return your call.

Cool huh?...

I am going to share this with you because this is one of the biggest questions that people have, just like you, that are trying to put their relationship back together.

So I am going to answer..."How do I get my ex to return my phone call, text or IM?"


BUT...

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WARNING!
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In the Magic Of Making Up, is a complete strategy.


If you use this technique alone, without an 'overall' plan or strategy...you may
damage your relationship more than if they never returned your call.

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What NOT to Say!
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Before we get into the actual words, let's go over what message almost NEVER works.

and worse...

Puts you in an AWFUL 'psychological' position.

These usually fall into 2 categories.

The PLEAD- Where the message sounds like

"John, please, please call me. This is the 3rd time I have called. I HAVE to talk to you."

And the EMERGENCY-

"Cindy, this is an emergency. Please call me as soon as you get this."

Now, I think you can see what is wrong with both of those approaches?

So, I won't go on and on...

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How To Use Curiosity & Self Interest
To Your Advantage
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Two of the most powerful forces in the human mind are

*Curiosity & *Self Interest

And here's the BIG SECRET!

When you combine the two, you have a recipe that WILL work 'magic'

So...

Let's look at what you can say that works nearly EVERY TIME.

In a friendly tone:

"Hi John. It's Cindy. I wanted to let you know I appreciate what you did for me. Call me because I want to thank you in person."

Do you see how that uses BOTH curiosity and self interest?

John will NOT be able to resist! "What did I do?" "What does she appreciate?" he will be thinking. And he feels good because it is a positive message.

Now...

Before you call you need to do the "Set Up"...which is figuring out what he/she did that you appreciate.

It can be any small thing...but needs to be plausible.

But more importantly...

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2nd WARNING!
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Please have an underlying strategy like the one laid out in the Magic Of Making Up System BEFORE you call.

If you apply this technique with no underlying strategy and they call you back you can do more DAMAGE than good if you do not handle it correctly.

Okay?

What I am saying is...

What you do before, during and after you get them to return your call is MORE important than getting them to return your call.

Make sense?

Have a PLAN!==>Magic Of Making Up

Rooting For You,
TJ

Most people find themselves asking "What can I do to get my ex girlfriend back" following a breakup. They begin to start thinking and philosophizing about everything that could have been done differently. They even begin to make plans about apology letters and other things that might be able to help them score their relationship back.

This tends to be a dead end for one reason above all else: Because you can never really tell what the real reasons were behind a breakup. Women become emotional and sometimes they do not even know what led to the break up at hand and they may not know what is making them feel the way they do. In many circumstances it is only harmful to lose all your energy trying to figure out what went wrong.

The first main strategy to answer the question about "what can I do to get my ex girlfriend back" is to forget about the relationship for a while, putting your energy into something else. Go out, make friends, have fun, network, and forget about women in general. Set some realistic goals about expanding your repertoire when it comes to seduction and meeting people.

Give yourself a couple of months and make changes in your life. Take some time away from your ex and it will work wonders.

The effect that strategies like this will have, is that it will allow you to make gradual changes in your life. And in how you perceive the subject of relationships. After a few months, you may have a much better idea of how you want to proceed with your ex.

Do you still want to get back together with her? Or are you ready to move on? Act accordingly. If you still want to get back together with her, it might be time to figure out how she is feeling about you.

Now is your chance to be a little more direct when it comes to getting your ex girlfriend back. You need to play strategically, however. Do not simply beg her to get back with you, because this is not a good time to be emotional.

Instead, what you should be doing is playing things cool with your ex. If you have spent enough time apart from her, she is probably missing you as badly as you are missing her. Play hard to get a little (don't over do it) and show her that you are doing fine without her. This will inspire her to really rethink things. http://www.blogger.com/img/blank.gif

And if getting back together with your ex really is meant to be, now is the time when it will become apparent. Be careful not to analyze things too much, because over analyzing may prevent you from acting the right way when trying to figure out "what can I do to get my ex girlfriend back". Just take things slow and play them cool and you should be fine.

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T.W.Jackson is the author of Magic of Making Up. In his book he gives you strategies and helpful hints on getting your ex back, saving your marriage or what to do after a break up.