Is your marriage like a ship in rough seas ready to sink? If you are asking "what can I do to save my marriage" then maybe there is an iceberg ahead.

So what happened? Have you thought about what brought you to this question? You need to map out a plan before you move forward or you might find yourself looking at that same iceburg again and jumping ship.

Sit down and talk with your spouse. Get their opinion. Find out what they think about the marriage. Do they think the marriage is worth saving? By sitting down and talking you might find that both of you are wanting to save the marriage.

Now you need to decide which way you want to go to "save my marriage". Do you go to counseling or try to fix it on your own. If you try to fix it on your own, then you may look online. You can find many sites and ebooks that can give you the help you need.

Take into consideration that if you do try to fix it on your own, that you both will be looking at it from different angles. You need to make sure that both of you follow the same path and don't sway from course. That way you can both come to the same answer to "save my marriage".

If you decide to go to a marriage counselor, don't go for the first one listed. You need to look for the one that you are willing to open up to. One that both of you feel comfortable with, so that you can lay it all out on the table. You may find that 'letting it all out' with a marriage counselor is what you both needed.

Some think that a marriage counselor is the last step that they can take to save a marriage. That's not true, it can also be the first step. Or you can try both at the same time. Your marriage counselor may give you refrences to online sites and ebooks to look over. The marriage counselor may have you look online for homework purposes. Something that both of you can do together.

Which ever way you decide, make sure that both of you are willing to go that route. Decide together and then follow through, or you may find yourself asking the same question "Save My Marriage, What Can I Do?"

Save a marriage, try these 4 tips. They are all common sense , they are not difficult to do, yet many people won’t try them, not even to save a marriage.

Tip 1) Stop arguing. If you and your partner seem to argue over little things, then maybe you should learn to let it go. Don't try to start an argument every time you talk to each other. Leave it be. When you stop trying to argue with your partner, you may notice that your partner wont be arguing as much with you.

If you are trying to save a marriage, then you will have to be the one to start the process of not arguing as much. When both of you stop arguing as much, you may find that both of you want to save a marriage. So be the first to keep the peace.

Basically, If your partner thinks that the glass is half full, then don't think the glass is half empty. No need to start an argument over something little that can be blown big. Just think what's more important, saving a marriage or trying to prove a point. Let it go!

Tip 2) Try dating again. Think about how you met, where you went for your first date or maybe your partner has talked about going somewhere different. Make it a date. Try to keep things new in the marriage. Not only new things but try to keep yourself new as well. What did your partner like about you when you were dating? What do they like about you now? What was it that got the two of you together?

Remember how exciting and new everything was when you first got together. What was it that made it that way? Try to create it again, or something new that your partner is looking for. Don't fall into that proverbial rut where your partner thinks of you as boring.

Have a date night. Try to make it exciting and new just like when you first started dating. Just stay out of that rut and don't let it get boring.

Tip 3) Love your partner. Show them love the way they want to be loved. Some like to be touched a certain way, some just like to hear "I love you' more, while some just like the little things that are done for them.

No matter how you have to do it, just do it. Whether you have to stop everything your doing, grab your partner in your arms, look them in the eyes and say "I love you" or something as simple as opening the car door for them, you want to make them happy by showing them you love them.

Tip 4) If you want to help save a marriage, be physically affectionate. Hug, kiss and touch your partner as much as you can throughout the day. Could be just a brush of your hand as you walk by or sitting next to them on the couch as you watch a movie. Show them that you love being close to them by being physically affectionate.

Here is a youtube video on a relaxing mind technique from TW Jackson.
He helps get your mind in a relaxed, calm state to help you think straight.
Watch the video and tell me what you think.




If you would like his fast forwarding technique, or if you are looking to get back with your ex check out the Magic Of Making Up System

Hi,

Are there 'magic' words you can use to get your ex to return your phone calls?

Sounds hard to believe but there ARE words that will nearly cast a spell and make your ex feel almost compelled to return your call.

Cool huh?...

I am going to share this with you because this is one of the biggest questions that people have, just like you, that are trying to put their relationship back together.

So I am going to answer..."How do I get my ex to return my phone call, text or IM?"


BUT...

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WARNING!
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In the Magic Of Making Up, is a complete strategy.


If you use this technique alone, without an 'overall' plan or strategy...you may
damage your relationship more than if they never returned your call.

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What NOT to Say!
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Before we get into the actual words, let's go over what message almost NEVER works.

and worse...

Puts you in an AWFUL 'psychological' position.

These usually fall into 2 categories.

The PLEAD- Where the message sounds like

"John, please, please call me. This is the 3rd time I have called. I HAVE to talk to you."

And the EMERGENCY-

"Cindy, this is an emergency. Please call me as soon as you get this."

Now, I think you can see what is wrong with both of those approaches?

So, I won't go on and on...

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How To Use Curiosity & Self Interest
To Your Advantage
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Two of the most powerful forces in the human mind are

*Curiosity & *Self Interest

And here's the BIG SECRET!

When you combine the two, you have a recipe that WILL work 'magic'

So...

Let's look at what you can say that works nearly EVERY TIME.

In a friendly tone:

"Hi John. It's Cindy. I wanted to let you know I appreciate what you did for me. Call me because I want to thank you in person."

Do you see how that uses BOTH curiosity and self interest?

John will NOT be able to resist! "What did I do?" "What does she appreciate?" he will be thinking. And he feels good because it is a positive message.

Now...

Before you call you need to do the "Set Up"...which is figuring out what he/she did that you appreciate.

It can be any small thing...but needs to be plausible.

But more importantly...

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2nd WARNING!
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Please have an underlying strategy like the one laid out in the Magic Of Making Up System BEFORE you call.

If you apply this technique with no underlying strategy and they call you back you can do more DAMAGE than good if you do not handle it correctly.

Okay?

What I am saying is...

What you do before, during and after you get them to return your call is MORE important than getting them to return your call.

Make sense?

Have a PLAN!==>Magic Of Making Up

Rooting For You,
TJ

Most people find themselves asking "What can I do to get my ex girlfriend back" following a breakup. They begin to start thinking and philosophizing about everything that could have been done differently. They even begin to make plans about apology letters and other things that might be able to help them score their relationship back.

This tends to be a dead end for one reason above all else: Because you can never really tell what the real reasons were behind a breakup. Women become emotional and sometimes they do not even know what led to the break up at hand and they may not know what is making them feel the way they do. In many circumstances it is only harmful to lose all your energy trying to figure out what went wrong.

The first main strategy to answer the question about "what can I do to get my ex girlfriend back" is to forget about the relationship for a while, putting your energy into something else. Go out, make friends, have fun, network, and forget about women in general. Set some realistic goals about expanding your repertoire when it comes to seduction and meeting people.

Give yourself a couple of months and make changes in your life. Take some time away from your ex and it will work wonders.

The effect that strategies like this will have, is that it will allow you to make gradual changes in your life. And in how you perceive the subject of relationships. After a few months, you may have a much better idea of how you want to proceed with your ex.

Do you still want to get back together with her? Or are you ready to move on? Act accordingly. If you still want to get back together with her, it might be time to figure out how she is feeling about you.

Now is your chance to be a little more direct when it comes to getting your ex girlfriend back. You need to play strategically, however. Do not simply beg her to get back with you, because this is not a good time to be emotional.

Instead, what you should be doing is playing things cool with your ex. If you have spent enough time apart from her, she is probably missing you as badly as you are missing her. Play hard to get a little (don't over do it) and show her that you are doing fine without her. This will inspire her to really rethink things. http://www.blogger.com/img/blank.gif

And if getting back together with your ex really is meant to be, now is the time when it will become apparent. Be careful not to analyze things too much, because over analyzing may prevent you from acting the right way when trying to figure out "what can I do to get my ex girlfriend back". Just take things slow and play them cool and you should be fine.

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T.W.Jackson is the author of Magic of Making Up. In his book he gives you strategies and helpful hints on getting your ex back, saving your marriage or what to do after a break up.

If you are trying to get your ex girlfriend back, but you were a jerk to her, you may not deserve her. That may not be what you want to hear but it may very well be the truth. It is good that you recognize that you may have had a problem but what are you going to do about it and why should she want you back? Until you figure those things out you may not get your ex girlfriend back.

Here’s what you need to do to get your ex girlfriend back:

1) Change the way you look at women. If you consider them property then you do not deserve a chance. View them as people deserving of respect and do your best to give it to them and you might have a chance. To love women you need to respect women.

2) Change the way you treat women. Chivalry is not dead. Be a gentleman and treat them as queens. If you can pull this off your chances improve. Be subtle about it and try not to draw attention. You don’t want to look like you are faking it. They will notice. Women are smart like that and if she doesn’t notice she will have a friend notice and tell her. Your credibility may be shot.

3) Learn humility. This will go a long way towards helping you get your ex girlfriend back.

4) Let her know that you were a jerk. If she tells you that you were, just agree with her. If she exaggerates, or it seems like she is, remember that to her she isn’t. The only person’s opinion that matters is hers if your goal is to get your ex girlfriend back. You’re selling and you’re trying to get her to buy. The customer is always right.

5) Find out if she wants some space or if she wants you to come begging and then give her what she wants. This will be a tough thing to do. You may have to ask around to people who know her well. She may even think that your efforts to try out are worth giving you a second thought.

6) Try and convince her friends that you are changed. You will have to do this first. They will be skeptical of you and will be most interested in protecting their friend that you hurt. If you can win her friends then you have won the major part of the battle. If you try and get ex girlfriend back first, you will have trouble convincing her and even if you do, they may talk her out of it. Do you want her trusted friends for you or against you?

7) Don’t tell her that you have changed, show her. Words are great but it doesn’t mean anything unless there is some action to back it up. You need more than words.

8) Think about the long term and if you are going to be able to make this change permanent. If you can’t then you are going to end up in the same place you are now but only with a smaller chance to get your ex girlfriend back.

If you find yourself saying, “I'm still in love with my ex” you aren't alone. There are many who find themselves at the end of a long term romance or marriage still clinging to hope that they might bring it back. Just because it seems like things are darkest and that there is no hope doesn't mean that there isn't any. There is still a chance that what you had can come back even stronger. When you are saying “I'm still in love with my ex” and you want to get that love back it is going to have to come back stronger if it is going to last.

For those of you saying, “I'm still in love with my ex” you may have a desire to turn back the clock and bring back what was lost. Be careful what you ask for, you might just get it and have the same results.

Look carefully at the mistakes that was made in the past and find out not only why they were made, but why they were able to have the impact on your relationship they did. You need to be able to make a stronger foundation than you had before. You are going to have to try and start from ground zero. To get back together with the one you love, you are going to have to try and start all over again. Just find a way to do it better. Tell yourself, "I'm still in love with my ex, but I want it to be better than before."

Try re-establishing a friendship. Take it slow. If your ex feels like you are trying to make things like they were, they may be resistant to it. Don't push things, just let things take their course. If the two of you are supposed to be together, it will happen. Just let it happen naturally.

Think positively about it. Don't let your ex see you crying or depressed about it. You want to try and make it look like you are a joy to come back to. If your ex sees that you are walking around depressed, they may decide that they don't want to have that in their lives. If they see that for you life has gone on and you are happy they may want to join you in your happiness.

Try to think of what type of person you would like to be with. Do you think that they would want to be with that type of person as well? People want to be with happy people who can brighten their day and make them smile. People want to be with someone who makes them feel that they have a purpose and that they aren't alone. Try to be someone that makes someone feel like that. Make your ex feel special by just being an encouraging friend.

If you make yourself valuable to your ex and are able to make them feel valuable you may have a chance to bring back lost love. You may also be making a foundation that will last forever. It is a good thing to say “I'm still in love with my ex.” It is an even better thing to try and make the foundation of that love stronger.


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